Have a Brew With Beth

Hello my lovely friends!

Meet the most extra cup in the world. It’s massive but I have to make less brews. Unagi ?

In this one, I really wanted to hash out how we treat ourselves. As brits, our humour is very self deprecating, so that doesn’t help. But there comes a point when you wonder do we just genuinely not like ourselves?

Name 3 things that you hate about yourself.

Mine are my boobs. My face. My body. My hobbit feet. The fact that I have about as much sexual appeal as an ingrown toenail. Whoops, was I meant to stop at 3??

That took me seconds to write. Seconds.

Just for fun, name 3 things you love about yourself.

Cue the ellipsis… yep, that ones a lot harder. I can genuinely say, I’m at a loss. I really hope you aren’t finding this question so hard and you find it much easier to name things you love about yourself, but I’ve asked a few people this question recently and all answered the first question much faster than the second.

You know the famous mean girls line when Cady is told she’s really pretty, responds with ‘thanks’ and is hit back with ‘so you agree? You think you’re really pretty?’ And we all laughed because we allllllll know some girl(s!) who shame others for daring to like something about themselves and we’ve all had that moment.

Let’s put a bloody stop to that. If you are loving something about yourself, scream it from the rooftops. Feeling that pic? Post the shit out of it. Having the best hair day? Walk down the street with your head held high. You’re worth it ?

It’s my birthday eve & I’m reflecting on how 24 treated me. Looking forward, my only goal for this next year is to love myself to the max by showing myself true kindness. Something I think we should all do, imagine what a beautiful world it would be.

Oh, thought of one! My eyebrows. I am a fan of them ?

It’s Sunday, so don’t you be flicking the kettle on – get someone to do it for you!!

Today I really want to discuss the importance of friendship. Now, this isn’t something that’ll be done and dusted in 1 post, this will very much be a recurring theme because how are you going to talk about friends without sitting down with them and discussing everything? (Coming soon – it’s gunna be good!)

Earlier this year I knew I wanted to start a blog. I wasn’t sure what it’d be about though and I suddenly just had this overwhelming need to write about the women in my life. It was another period of poor mental health for me and a genuine concern was I don’t know how I’m going to get out of this pit, maybe this is just life for me now. Then I got a text from my wonderful friend Naomi. There wasn’t anything monumental said, just a ‘how are you’. And the edges started to brighten a bit & there was some relief from the constant gloom.

It made me think, friendship is powerful. The people in your life play a huge role and most of the time it goes unnoticed and under appreciated. There and then I wrote a little something, words pouring out without really knowing what I was saying. On my screen I found a lovely nod to one of my friends. And thinking about it now, I was in such a place of darkness and sadness that I needed some light & beauty. Some kindness. So that’s why I unconsciously began writing about Naomi.

Now, I drunkenly read this unfinished piece to Naomi in a taxi on the way to a blossoms gig in the summer. There were tears (on my part), a very uncomfortable Darren & uber driver (I fear this trip affected my rating), but most importantly one of my favourite memories with her. I’m so glad she got to hear what I wrote because now I can’t find the bugger anywhere!!! Typical! So my dear friend, you get an updated version. I want to celebrate you as a person, because my word are you rare. In the most beautiful way!

You never leave someone worse off than you found them. You always enrich people’s lives & your natural kindness is so rare and beautiful, I can’t imagine my life without it. You are a one of a kind friend. When or if we have families, I get so excited for my future children that they will have you in their lives. How lucky they will be!

I’ve noticed that when I meet up with people, conversations can sometimes turn very bitchy and a portion of our limited time together will be spent tearing people down. This obviously says a lot more about my character then theirs because I’m a little instigator but this never happens with you. We never have to spend time reducing others to nasty words and that says a lot about you! Little side note – this is a topic I cannot wait to discuss. Lots of reflection coming up, which I hate but is necessary!

Now it’s pretty obvious I’m the kinda person who is quite insecure and looks for validation through other people. And social media. And the world. But hey, more on that at a later date! Naomi needs none of that. She is hands down one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever met and she don’t throw it around like a super power like most people. It is also enhanced by the sincerity of her character. Never ever change.

So this post is for the unsung heroes, the people who never ever make everything about them, aren’t the ‘in your face’ kinda person but are actually the best humans around and the ones that the world should be celebrating! To the most modest woman ever, Naomi, I am forever grateful for your friendship and love. Thank you for your unlimited kindness x

Sorry if this blog post isn’t very relatable to everyone, but I love my friends and can’t wait to champion them all! Maybe you can think and reflect on your on friendships. Who are the people who have helped you become the person you are today, who do you have the best memories with & who loves you unconditionally when sometimes you don’t even like yourself. Give those people an extra squeeze and maybe tell them how important they are to you. It can’t be a bad thing to hear, can it?

P.S. Sorry for the picture Naomi, I just couldn’t resist baby us!